The age of social media has changed how many of us behave in our day-to-day lives. We seek out the perfect Instagram photo and retake it until we get it right; we post our thoughts to Twitter with hardly even the thought of a filter; and when it comes to big occasions like pregnancy announcements or engagements, we are sure to let our whole social network know about our special day.
But what do you do when your daily activities coincide with someone else’s special day – for example, someone’s wedding? After all, being a wedding guest is fun, and most fun occasion should be shared online. However, it is important that wedding guests are respectful of the bride and groom’s wishes when it comes to documenting their nuptials. Here are a few tips to handling wedding day social media with ease:
Don’t Post Until After The Ceremony
A wedding ceremony is more than just a pretty picture on an app. The ceremony should be experienced “IRL” – and that means turning off the phone until the couple has said “I do.” Imagine what might happen if the groom, casually scrolling through Instagram before the ceremony starts, finds a photo of his bride in her wedding dress! Carelessly posting photos to your feed can spoil the magic of someone else’s wedding.
Of course, some couples may want you to keep their newsfeed updated. Some even designate a “Tweeter of Honor” for their wedding, whose job is to make sure that the World Wide Web has up-to-the-minute wedding information. If you’re that person, post away. But if you’re not, it is a wiser decision not to post at all.
Stay Out Of The Photographer’s Way
A woman walking down the aisle is an iconic image. She looks striking in a beautiful gown. Usually her father is by her side, beaming with pride. It’s an image so integral to the wedding that couples hire photographers to make sure they capture that magic moment, so the couple can look back on it for years to come.
Do you know what could ruin that moment? You leaning into the aisle to take a picture with your smartphone. Guests trying to snap a photo of the bride have become a common complaint for wedding photographers in recent years. To avoid becoming a nuisance (and interfering with a service the couple shelled out money for), just enjoy the bride’s walk down the aisle without photographic evidence. You can always get a photo of her lovely gown at the reception.
Flexibility is Key
It may sound like we’re telling you not to post anything at the next wedding you attend. Not so: the reception is the perfect time to get your post on. Take a selfie with the guests at your table, film that adorable flower girl dancing on the groom’s feet, add any filter you like over that photo of your wedding cake. However, don’t be surprised if not every photo gets to stay.
Be flexible with your posts, and realize that it is someone else’s special day. If the bride calls you and asks you to take down a photo because her mother-in-law doesn’t like how she looks in it, happily oblige. After all, you’d hope that when you get married, she’d do the same for you.
Article by: Naomi Shaw